People often say that i have an aged presence that not only conveys maturity, but also, a sense of sadness. when i look at the mirror and stare straight into the supposed sad eyes of this old man… i smile.
I see the pain and hate i have endured—and proudly overcome—that undoubtedly left scars and wrinkles… but i realize that all these wounds show the world that i have finally decided to risk enduring the hells of life in order to taste its sweetness. though i have fallen off the branch many times, i have finally left the nest…to fly.
Living is not within the safe, gray area…there are no lines or boundaries or 20-dollar-pocket-books-with-life’s-secrets that should define ‘living.’ just close your eyes, hold your breath, and jump. Although it took the bitter pain of heartbreaks and betrayals and disappointments and deaths for me to finally allow my heart to breathe… I am finally able to simply… feel life.
And everyday, when I stare at that old man in the mirror… I am thankful.
I’de say, you’re probably in your late teens or early 20’s. In that case, let me just remind you that you are very young and you have your whole world in front of you… just waiting for you!
A lot of young people (sadly) are not aware that the world is not limited to what you see just around the corner and/or what is just within your reach. Absolutely not! There’s a big wide world out there to explore. A lot of new people to meet and a whole lot more of new experiences to enjoy and relish.
Always remember that life is an un-ending journey of ups and downs, highs and lows, joyful moments and lonely moments, of successes and failures, and in your situation… being in love and being heartbroken. They’re all part of our life’s journey. Without them, we’re nothing. All of your experiences in life make who you are now and who you will be in the future. Your responses and reactions to all these experiences will eventually determine wether you succeed or fail in life. How you handle them now, how you try to understand them now, and how you try to learn from each and every experience will all help you in the future. Try to give yourself a quiet moment to think and analyze what had just happened with your lovelife. Re-think the circumstances and situations. Could it be that it was not meant to be? Could it be that you were just hoping against hope that he/she’s the man/women for you? Or could it be that you were trying to push your luck a bit harder… more than you should? Think of it as a learning experience. To move on, try to focus your mind on the other important aspects of your life, like your studies (if you’re still a student), your career (if you’re working), your hobbies and sports you enjoy, activities with family and friends - anything to keep your mind and body, busy and active.
Always remember that we have the capability to direct and program our daily lives and what we want to happen in every single moment of it. It’s our decisions and choices that matter - wether we want to end up losers or we make sure that we make the most out of life. Remember this, “Winners make things happen - Losers let things happen”. Go out and live your life. There’s a big world out there, waiting for you!
I’m not looking for a savior, a fix-up project, or anything of that sort. I’m looking for a woman who quite simply adds something extraordinary and special to my life. And I to her. A fair exchange, an amazing mind, body and soul connection and a place to build something magnificent.
And trust me, I’m in no rush. I rather take the time to know who she is and what she’s all about, rather than jumping into it and making the relationship all about my expectations of her and what or how I want her to change for me.
That you cannot make someone love you, all you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.
That it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. That it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts. I’ve learned-
That it’s taking me a long time to become the person that I want to be. That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
That you can keep going long after you can’t. That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
That either you control your attitude or it controls you. That regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is a first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. That money is a lousy way of keeping score.
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time. That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you are down will be the ones to help you get back up.
That sometimes when I get angry I have the right to be angry, but it doesn’t give me the right to be cruel. That true friendship continues to grow over the longest distance, and the same goes for true love.
That just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have. That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
That you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what tragedy it would be if they believed it. That no matter how good your friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while, and you must forgive them for that.
That it isn’t always good enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you must learn to forgive yourself. That no matter how bad a heart is broken; the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for whom we become. That just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean that they don’t love each other, and just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
That we don’t have to change friends, if we understand that friends change. That two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you. That even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.”—Susane Pieffer